Memoir is usually seen as an internal psychological exploration. But I felt that I wasn’t just writing about the personal loss of my mother; I was also mapping the intimate contours of this mysterious transformation we all experience, because that’s what I’d wanted when my mother died: a more resonant description than 'the stages of grief' could offer.- Meghan O’Rourke
The words Meghan O'Rourke used in a New York Times interview to describe writing about her mother's death have stuck with me: "mapping the intimate contours."
It's a phrase that describes one of the important things artists try to achieve.